We are working with leaders here in Germany to help them discover their uniqueness and maximize their strengths (using Gallup’s Strengths Finder). We will also be walking through the Character Matrix (based on Erwin McManus’ book Uprising).
I was amazed when I discovered that Adolf Hitler and Billy Graham have the same personality and similar strengths. Obviously, they used their “powers” in very different directions. This reminds me of a line from Spiderman: “With great power comes great responsibility.”
We are also interacting with conflict resolution using MBTI, a personality indicator. If you are familiar with the MBTI, the following chart may be of interest in understanding how we work through conflict*:
TJ – Extraverted Thinkers are decisive, planned, organized, but may be critical and blunt. The cause of conflict is a challenge to/of authority, and their desired outcome is closure. They deal with their emotions by denying they exist. Others think they are detached or aggressive. They are satisfied when the conflict is over.
FJ – Extraverted Feelers are warm and seek harmony, but at times may smother others with kindness. The cause of conflict is a challenge to/of beliefs, and their desired outcome is intact relationships. They deal with their emotions by including them. Others think they are seeking communication and harmony. They are satisfied when there is no lingering bitterness.
TP – Introverted Thinkers are objective and searching for what is right, but at times they can be stubborn. The cause of conflict is a challenge to/of trust, and their desired outcome is a defined process or progression. They deal with their emotions by excluding them. Others think they are a catalyst or contributor to conflict. They are satisfied when they are able to analyze the outcome.
FP – Introverted Feelers are sensitive and attuned to people’s needs, but at times worry for everyone. The cause of conflict is a challenge to/of values, and their desired outcome is respectful listening. They deal with emotions by accepting them. Others think they includes others’ values and concerns. They are satisfied when there is open exploration.
*From Introduction to Type and Conflict by Damian Killen and Danica Murphy (a resource usually only available to those qualified as MBTI consultants.