A favorite read of mine from a few years back that I keep handy is How Full Is Your Bucket by Donald Clifton and Tom Rath. This Gallup book includes a code to take the StrengthsFinder assessment as well as some fantastic statistics and quotes like the following:
“Our encounters are rarely neutral; they are almost always positive or negative…. They accumulate and profoundly affect our lives.
The #1 reason people leave their jobs: They don’t feel appreciated.
Bad bosses could increase the risk of stroke by 33%.
A study found that negative employees can scare off every customer they speak with – for good.
65% of Americans received no recognition in the workplace last year.
9 out of 10 people say they are more productive when they’re around positive people.
Recent studies show that negative emotions can be harmful to your health and might even shorten your life span.
Positive emotions are an essential daily requirement for survival.
We experience approximately 20,000 individual moments every day.
The frequency of small, positive acts is critical… there is a ‘magic ratio’ of 5 to 1 – in terms of positive to negative interactions.
Researcher John Gottman found that marriages are significantly more likely to succeed when the couple’s interactions are near that 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative. When the ratio approaches 1 to 1, marriages ‘cascade to divorce.’
A recent study found that workgroups with positive to negative interaction ratios greater than 3 to 1 are significantly more productive tan teams that do not reach this ratio…. Things can worsen if the ratio goes higher than 13 to 1…. Positivity must be grounded in reality.
Extending longevity: Increasing positive emotions could lengthen life span by 10 years…. So, negative emotions might cut more years off of life expectancy than smoking.
We need to ‘go on a diet consisting of more positive emotions and fewer negative emotions.’
Often, we feel as if we were ‘dealt a bad hand’ and that life is unfair. But we don’t have to allow ourselves to be defined by our hardships. Our responses to difficult events and our emotional state are much more important. Positive reinforcement about our strengths can buffer us against getting overwhelmed with the negative. And understanding what we do best allows us not only to survive, but grow, in the face of adversity.
The Five Strategies for Increasing Positive Emotions:
- Prevent Bucket Dipping – replace negative comments with positive ones with a goal of at least 5 positive for every 1 negative interactions
- Shine a Light on What is Right
- Make Best Friends – Great relationships lead to a significant increase in life satisfaction.
- Give Unexpectedly – The vast majority of people prefer gifts that are unexpected.
- Reverse the Golden Rule – “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.
What we recognize in others helps them shape their identity and their future accomplishments.”
For more on the StrengthsFinder, go here.