“Self-Talk: Relationally Deflating” with John Burke and Dr. Chris Thurman


At Gateway Church in Austin, we continued our series “Self-Talk.” In this message John Burke interviews Dr. Chris Thurman, .

Our relationships can be negatively affected by our thoughts, especially when we are experiencing a lot of guilt and shame. John Burke interviews Dr. Chris Thurman, a counselor and author of author of The Lies We Believe and The Lies Couples Believe among many others. Discover how to renew your mind, transform your life, and develop healthy relationships.

Next Steps:

Work through the following questions and Scriptures on your own, and get together with your running partner, life group, or friends and family to talk through what you are learning.

“Self-Talk: Relationally Deflating” Next Steps

A Thrive Class

As a next step to today’s message, whether you are single or a couple, I wanted to let you know about a GREAT opportunity to tackle the lies we can all believe about ourselves and others. Jamie Schwarz, our South Recovery Pastor, will be leading a Zoom group beginning February 23rd at 7pm on another book by the Psychologist, Dr. Chris Thurman, called “The Lies We Believe”.

For more info and to sign up here.

Message Video:

Message Notes:

Our battle is in our mind!

The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. – 2 Corinthians 10:4-5

Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. 32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” – John 8:31-32

The Lies We Believe That Hurt Our Relationships:

  • “I Should”
  • “People Should Meet All Of My Needs”
  • “Others Should Accept Me Just the Way I Am”
  • “People Have to Earn My Forgiveness”

The Ways to Overcome the Lies:

  • Study the Bible.
  • Meditate on God’s Truths.
  • Fellowship with Others.
  • Act On Truth Whether You Feel Like It Or Not.
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