At Gateway Austin, we continued our new series “Hello, My Name Is….”
Your view of God shapes everything—how you pray, how you lead, how you suffer, how you love. What we believe about God will determine the kind of world we imagine we’re living in.
But what if our view of God is all wrong?
When Moses asked to see God’s glory, God did not first display raw power. He proclaimed His name and revealed His character: compassionate, gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin – yet not leaving the guilty unpunished.
This six-week journey shows what we can learn about God from His interaction with kings, poets, prophets, and people just like you and me. When we know who God really is, we can know Him more and make Him known.
Digging Deeper:
Message Video at Gateway South Austin:
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Message Notes by Ricky Echeona:
We’re going to start in our anchoring passage for this series, this is the passage from which this whole thing flows. Why? Because God has a name and it’s a long one, and this is how He chose to reveal himself. Not because he needed to save face but simply because this is who He IS, who He has always been, and who He will be.
Exodus 34:6-7- “God passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, ‘The Lord, the Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation.'”
And here’s the part we are double-clicking in on and zooming in on this morning- slow to anger. We are tuning in to God’s patience. Patience. I want you to know I fought everyone on the teaching team to teach this week on patience. That’s right, I beat everyone I faced. There were no challengers, but here I am. The team knew this is one of my strengths (lol)- PASSIONATE and PATIENT. LOUD and CALM. In all honesty, the word patient is probably not in the top five…hundred words you would use to describe me.
But I’m grateful we aint talking about me. We’re talking about GOD. How many are grateful that God is patient…make some noise. Yea, He’s been there through every mess, every fire (even the ones you started), every “If you just get me out of this…!” Come on, how many are grateful for God’s patience? His forebearance? The fact that Scripture says he is long-suffering.
Exodus 34:6-7 is probably one of if not the most quoted passage across the Old Testament. Over and over we hear “compassionate, gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love…” It’s one of those things in Scripture that once you see it, you can’t unsee it. We’re told he’s patient repeatedly.
Psalm 145:8-9 (NIV) – The Lord is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love. The Lord is good to all; he has compassion on all he has made.
John tells us in 1 John God is love. We will talk about that more next week. God is love. And in the best description of LOVE that is read at every wedding, what is the first line? Love is…PATIENT. It’s read at every wedding. Every wedding except mine.
I gave my aunt who reads out of her King James and I didn’t have her proofread or practice. And shawty gets up there with her glasses with the 6ft rope attached to them, Tia I love you if you’re watching this later, clears her throat and reads out of her King James… “Charity suffereth long and is kind, charity envieth not, charity vaunteth not itself…” At this point I’m like who is Charity and why she in her Bible? “Charity doth not behave itself unseemly.” Someone get this woman a New International Version size 72 font… “Charity never faitleth!”
13 years later and I’m still afraid to break the news to her. She’s almost 90 and still amazingly fit and spry and pentecostal, so you can see my trepidation haha. She’s the reason I have everyone triple check their notes at every wedding, no lie.
But say it with me LOVE is… PATIENT. God is… PATIENT.
- Turn to your neighbor and say, “Neighbor! God is patient…But I aint.”
- Turn to your other neighbor and tell em, “God said ‘Wait’… and I said ‘How long?'”
- Turn to a 3rd neighbor and tell em, “God said ‘Trust my timing’, and I said ‘Can I get a calendar invite?'”
“Lord I know the blessing is on the way but I need to check the tracking number bout 3-4 times Jesus. Did you get the shipping address right- it’s Ricky with a Y, not an EY. Really, my government name is Ricardo. Oh you knew that already? That’s right YAHWEH, Alpha and Omega and all that.”
But friends…God is PATIENT. He’s slow to anger.
But there’s this dissonance in most of us, if we’re being honest, when we hear that God is patient, because we become instantly aware of our impatience. We are impatient with God. We are impatient with others. We’re impatient with ourselves.
It’s been said so many times and in so many ways that it’s almost nauseating and played out when a pastor or podcaster says it- but we were not designed for the break-neck pace that we live at in 2026 in the west, in the US.
We’re consumed with speed, convenience, and urgency and comparison. So when we hear God is patient, and he desires that virtue to exist in us and through us, it almost makes us eye-roll. Like, “I get it…patience, yea sure. What else do I need, hurry up, what else.”
Out of all these attributes I think this is the one that grates on us the most. God is merciful, gracious, abounding in love… we love all those. And on the surface yea we love “slow to anger”, but when you peel back that layer and see that that really means He’s patient… and when you peel back that layer and see that that means He doesn’t work in our timeline and with our framework. That’s what bothers us the most.
But the fact that He is patient. That he is slow to anger means we can live differently. We can unplug from the hyper-control, and hyper-urgency, and anxiety we seem to live with constantly. And I fundamentally believe our impatience with God, our impatience with others, and our impatience with ourselves- it’s just a control issue.
But in revealing himself this way to Moses, and Israel, and Us. He’s saying “slow down and get to know me. I’m far from this angry mythical Olympian figure in the sky who wants to strike you down. I’m actually really slow to anger, I’m actually really patient.”
So what does it actually look like to surrender to a God like this? I want to show you three things His patience does in your life. But first, I want to take you to the New Testament, because Peter- yes THAT Peter, the one who couldn’t wait 5 minutes without swinging a sword or reflexively lying that he didn’t know Jesus- Peter grew up to write this about the character of God:
2 Peter 3:8-9 – But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.
Peter is writing to people who are DONE waiting. Persecuted, exhausted, watching evil seem to win, wondering “Jesus said He was coming back, so… where IS He?” Sound familiar? And Peter doesn’t say “you’re right, God’s slow.” He says you’ve got the math wrong. What feels like delay to you is not delay to Him. It’s not that God is slow. It’s that God is patient. Those are two very different words with two very different postures behind them.
Slow implies He’s behind schedule. Patient implies He’s exactly on time, and He’s using the “delay” for something you can’t see yet.
And here’s the piece I don’t want you to miss- His patience isn’t passive, it’s purposeful. He’s not patient because He’s stalling. He’s patient because He’s after something- your repentance, your endurance, your hope. Let’s break this down together
[Production Note- I have the points numbered here, but I don’t want the numbers on the slides]
1. God’s Patience Gives Us Time to Turn.
Peter says God’s not wishing that any should perish, but that ALL should reach repentance. Translation- every day God doesn’t bring down the hammer isn’t Him letting you get away with something, it’s Him making room for you to come home.
Think about Cain. First murder in human history. And before it happens, God shows up and asks him a question that should stop every one of us in our tracks:
Genesis 4:6-7 – Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”
God doesn’t open with judgment, He opens with a question about Cain’s ANGER. “Why are you angry?” Because God knows something Cain doesn’t know about himself yet- his anger isn’t really about Abel’s sacrifice being accepted and his wasn’t. His anger is the SMOKE. The fire underneath is rejection. Comparison. Feeling unseen by his own father, maybe, or unseen by God Himself. Feeling like he’ll never measure up.
Here’s something modern psychology has caught up to that Scripture’s been saying since Genesis 4- anger is what they call a SECONDARY emotion. It’s rarely the real thing. It’s the alarm that goes off to protect you from feeling something more vulnerable underneath- shame, hurt, grief, fear, feeling powerless, feeling unworthy. Anger feels strong. Anger feels like control. So we reach for it instead of the softer, scarier stuff underneath.
Can I get practical for a second?
- Dads, when you snap at your kid over the spilled juice, it’s rarely about the juice.
- Moms, when you’re short with your husband about the dishes again, it’s rarely about the dishes.
- Coworkers, when that email makes your blood boil, it’s rarely about the email.
Something underneath got touched- you felt disrespected, unseen, unworthy, out of control- and anger showed up to protect you from feeling that.
God’s patience with Cain, in that moment, was Him saying “I see what’s under the anger, and I’m giving you a beat before this becomes something you can’t take back.” That’s what His patience does for you too. It’s not Him ignoring your sin. It’s Him giving you TIME- time to ask what’s really going on underneath the snap, the silence, the slammed door- before it becomes a regret you carry for years.
The Lord speaking to me on my retreat about why I feel the need to control.
And can we be honest? We WANT God’s patience toward us. We just don’t always want to extend it to ourselves, others, or to Him. St. Augustine, who pre-Jesus was a wild boy in these streets and in the sheets (lol), in his book Confessions, admits maybe the most honest prayer ever prayed by a Christian- “Grant me chastity and continence, but not yet.” That’s every one of us at some point. God, be patient with me while I figure out my timeline for turning. Meanwhile we want Him to fix our spouse, our finances, our health, TODAY.
His patience gives you time to turn. What is He giving YOU time to turn from right now?
Where is everyone else telling you, you have an anger issue in this area but you keep shirking it like it’s no big deal? Maybe God is trying to heal something underneath the surface. There’s this iceberg no one can see. And YOU may not even be aware of it. But God in His mercy says, “Let’s deal with THAT! Then the anger won’t seem so impulsive and second-nature.”
2. God’s Patience Gives Us Grace to Go the Distance.
Repentance is the turn. But what about the WAITING that comes after you’ve already turned, and the answer still hasn’t come? What about the marriage you’re praying over that hasn’t changed? The diagnosis that hasn’t lifted? The prodigal who still hasn’t called?
This is where most of us don’t need FORGIVENESS as much as we need ENDURANCE. And endurance doesn’t come from gritting your teeth harder, it comes from God’s own patience becoming the grace you draw from.
There’s a prophet who knew this tension better than most- Jonah. Jonah didn’t need patience to obey God the first time (well, he ran, but that’s another sermon). Jonah’s real anger issue shows up AFTER obedience, after revival, after God does the miracle:
Jonah 4:1-4 – But to Jonah this seemed very wrong, and he became angry. He prayed to the Lord, “Isn’t this what I said, Lord, when I was still at home? That is what I tried to forestall by fleeing to Tarshish. I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love, a God who relents from sending calamity. Now, Lord, take away my life, for it is better for me to die than to live.” But the Lord replied, “Is it right for you to be angry?”
Jonah is FURIOUS that God is exactly who Exodus 34 said He’d be- compassionate, gracious, slow to anger. Jonah wanted judgment on Nineveh, not mercy. And God asks him the same question he asked Cain- “is it right for you to be angry?” Underneath Jonah’s anger wasn’t really about Nineveh at all. It was fear. Fear that mercy for his enemies made his own suffering meaningless. It was entitlement. He felt owed a certain outcome after doing what God asked. Sound familiar?
How many of us have done the right thing- forgiven, obeyed, stayed faithful- and then gotten ANGRY when the outcome didn’t look like we thought it should? That anger is usually grief wearing a mask. Grief over a story that didn’t go the way you scripted it.
You know all anger at it’s root is a response to a seeming injustice. Even a child throwing a tantrum in the store- “It’s not fair that you won’t get me a kinder joy, we got one last time.”
Your road rage? A response to an “injustice” to everyone else you look crazy, but in your mind behind the wheel of that Ford Explorer you are a great judge dispensing good justice.
James, Jesus’ own brother, later writes this to a scattered, suffering, impatient church:
James 1:19-20 – My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this- Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
Notice- he’s not saying don’t ever feel anger. He’s saying be SLOW to it, the same way God is slow to it. Because your anger, unmanaged, doesn’t accomplish what you think it will. It doesn’t speed up the process. It just burns YOU and everyone around you while you wait.
Paul says something similar to the Ephesians:
Ephesians 4:26 – “In your anger do not sin”- Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
Anger itself isn’t the sin. What you DO with it, and how long you let it sit unresolved, is where the door opens for something worse. Endurance doesn’t mean stuffing the anger down and pretending. It means bringing it to God the way Jonah did- honest, even furious- and letting Him show you what’s actually underneath it, instead of letting it fester into bitterness that outlasts the season you’re trying to survive.
But our hope is to do better than Jonah, because He just stews in it. And the ending doesn’t resolve well, there’s no pretty bow at the end of Jonah’s story. He just stays there in his self-righteous indignation.
When it doesn’t FEEL fair, trust God’s character and track record. He will make things right, and He might send you to help bring justice when you have the right mindset and heart.
Dads, moms, that coworker who tests your patience every single day- your capacity to endure them isn’t going to come from trying harder. It’s going to come from tapping into HIS patience toward you, and letting that recalibrate how much patience you have left to give away.
His patience gives you grace to go the distance.
3. God’s Patience Trains Us to Wait Strong
Here’s where I want to have some fun, because I don’t want you to leave here thinking waiting is just something you survive. Isaiah writes about the payoff of patient waiting, and it’s not what you’d expect:
Isaiah 40:29-31 – He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
Notice the progression- SOAR, then RUN, then WALK. That’s backwards from how we’d write it. We’d think soaring is for the elite moments and walking is the baseline. But Isaiah flips it. The walking, the daily grind of ordinary faithfulness while you wait, that’s actually the hardest and most sustained level of endurance there is. Anybody can have a soaring moment. Staying faithful in the WALK, day after day, unremarkable Tuesday after unremarkable Tuesday, that’s where real strength gets built.
Waiting is not wasted time, it’s a training season. In the gym, you don’t get stronger during the rep, you get stronger during the recovery. Ask anybody who lifts- the muscle doesn’t grow while you’re under the bar, it grows while you’re resting, recovering, healing, and getting proper nutrition. The wait IS the workout. While you’re sitting there thinking “nothing is happening,” God’s building something in you that the burst of an instant answer never could.
The verse says those that wait on the Lord will “…renew their strength.” So if you tell me you’re waiting on God, you should be getting…STRONGER. So don’t tell anybody, “Well I’m just waiting on God.” But spiritually you look like the Crypt Keeper. While you wait keep serving, keep diving into His word, keep gathering, keep listening to Him. Don’t stay stuck in Groundhog day just because you haven’t seen your blessing yet.
Back to Augustine for a moment, he wrestled with this exact tension in his Confessions, wondering out loud what time even IS while you’re stuck in it.
“What then is time? If no one asks me, I know; if I wish to explain it to one who asks, I know not.”
– Augustine
That’s all of us in a waiting season. We know exactly what time feels like when we’re drowning in it, but we can’t explain why it feels so slow when God says a day to Him is like a thousand years.
That’s not God being distant from your timeline. That’s God operating from OUTSIDE of it, seeing the whole picture while you’re stuck inside a single frame.
And that’s the whole posture shift Peter is after in 2 Peter 3, stop measuring God’s faithfulness by YOUR clock. He’s not slow. He’s sovereign. And we don’t get to see everything He’s doing while we wait, but we get to trust that He’s doing SOMETHING.
All of this, the time to turn, the grace to endure, the strength to wait, all of it finds its full weight at the Cross. Because if you want to know how far God’s patience goes, you don’t have to guess. Paul, writing to Timothy, connects his OWN story straight to the patience of Jesus:
1 Timothy 1:15-16 – Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance- Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners- of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life.
Paul, the guy who dragged Christians out of their homes to be executed, says HIS OWN LIFE is Exhibit A of God’s patience. If God was patient enough to turn a murderer into the guy who wrote half the New Testament, His patience toward YOU, toward your anger, your waiting, your unresolved stuff, is not running out.
The Cross is God’s patience in its final, fullest form, Him absorbing the anger, the judgment, the wrath that our sin actually deserved, so that you and I could have time to turn, grace to endure, and strength to wait. He didn’t lose His patience with you at the Cross. He spent it. All of it. On you.
I want to close by reading this passage once all together and then once just absorbing it. Consider this our benediction, if you will:
5 May God, who gives this patience and encouragement, help you live in complete harmony with each other, as is fitting for followers of Christ Jesus. 6 Then all of you can join together with one voice, giving praise and glory to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. -Romans 15:5-6 (NLT)










